worker expects us all to attend her vacation spot marriage ceremony
A reader writes:
I’m the proprietor of an organization. Our workforce is mighty, however tiny — solely 10 folks, three of whom are in management/senior positions. One worker firmly believes that since we spend most of our time at work, coworkers ought to operate extra like household than like, properly, coworkers. We attempt to discover methods to softly reinforce that all of us want acceptable boundaries at work, however it comes up typically sufficient to make it clear that she considers us to be her shut mates.
She is getting married subsequent yr, in a vacation spot marriage ceremony going down in one other a part of the nation. She has invited all workers and made it clear that together with the entire workforce was a precedence for her within the planning course of. At this level, she absolutely expects that each worker will attend. It looks as if she’s utilizing the marriage as a “friendship check” of kinds, and already speaks as if we’re all confirmed visitors. The invites haven’t even gone out but!
In fact, not the entire workers are planning on attending, although my query is about myself. I do know that this occasion is emotionally significant to her. As the top of the corporate, do I suck it up and pay to fly throughout the nation and get a room in one of many nation’s most costly cities to attend a marriage I don’t actually wish to go to? On the one hand, I simply don’t consider you possibly can count on folks to robotically find a way come to your vacation spot marriage ceremony. On the opposite, I fear about her morale if I skip out on this occasion. (This can be a problem anyway, given her colleagues is not going to all be in attendance.) What’s the etiquette for bosses attending worker weddings?
I reply this query — and two others — over at Inc. as we speak, the place I’m revisiting letters which have been buried within the archives right here from years in the past (and generally updating/increasing my solutions to them). You can learn it right here.
Different questions I’m answering there as we speak embrace:
- My overworked colleague is lacking deadlines
- What’s an inexpensive period of time to answer a reference request?