It’s “the place are you now?” month at Ask a Supervisor, and all December I’m working updates from individuals who had their letters right here answered up to now.
There shall be extra posts than traditional this week, so hold checking again all through the day.
Keep in mind the letter-writer asking if it was OK to trip with a pal from work (#3 on the hyperlink)? Right here’s the replace.
Thanks a lot on your recommendation on happening trip with my work pal (in addition to all of the feedback!). I’ve acquired a fast replace for everybody.
I did determine to go on trip with my coworker Brad, and nothing untoward occurred whereas on the journey. No strains had been crossed, we completed the journey cordial however barely much less chatty. I assumed that was as a result of we ran out of issues to speak about after a couple of days by the pool, nevertheless it’s clear that wasn’t the case.
It’s been 3 months or so for the reason that journey, and issues have been a bit frosty between us. Sometimes I’d texted Brad to seize dinner or one thing after work, however I at all times acquired turned down. All conversations and messages had been clipped/impolite, together with conversations about work subjects.
After being in my new division for six months now, I’ve picked up some crimson flags about Brad that I missed earlier than (or selected to disregard attributable to our friendship). He’s constantly impolite/uncooperative/unhelpful with the entire division, to the purpose of individuals being nervous to speak to him.
I’ve stopped messaging/speaking to Brad until I’ve a piece request, and even then I’m cautious of approaching him. Sometimes I’ll get a late evening textual content asking to fulfill him on the neighborhood bar after he’s had a couple of drinks, however then he’ll return to avoiding me the subsequent day.
All issues thought of, I’m nonetheless glad I went on the journey with Brad, it was a pleasant trip and it opened my eyes to how he’s. I don’t suppose this strained our work relationship, from what I can inform he now treats me like he treats everybody else on the crew (minus the drunk texts!).
Thanks once more for all of the suggestions from everybody within the remark part (and Alison after all!)